Who’s doing the talking
Sometimes you just don’t have the time or energy to read a heavy self-help or counselling book to learn something new hey, however important it might be. So here’s a few thoughts I put together on thinking and your mind, to hopefully help you get a better understanding of what’s happening between your ears and how your thoughts energize your body into an anxious state.
When it comes to managing anxious thoughts, it’s not about controlling, denying, ignoring or resisting them. Because whatever you resist, persists. You can’t use your mind to quiet your mind. Instead, a key skill or tool in your toolbox, is to learn how to allow the thought to come and go again, without giving it any attention, meaning or energy.
Many people believe they are a cluster of thoughts, memories, feelings and sensations. Together these form an illusionary, mind made sense of self that often controls us physically, emotionally and psychologically, like a puppet master controls his puppets.
Whether its anxious, depressive, angry or oppressive thoughts. Many people have virtually no relief from their mind, because its constantly throwing up one thought after another and they never learned how to remove their attention from their thoughts. Freedom from your mind comes when you can observe your thoughts, rather than following every thought and believing them.
MIND is the involuntary thought processes you generally are not aware of. These are not thoughts that you – had – they are thoughts that - happened – to you. As in, automatic thoughts that rise through the different levels of consciousness into your general awareness. The mistake being then, you fall for the mind illusion that you created and chose the particular thought and identify with it, believe it and accept it. Which in turn affects and infects your body chemistry so now you feeling the same way as your thinking.
When you believe the anxious voice in your head is who you are, you automatically believe everything it says, you believe all the thoughts that your mind generates and define yourself by these limitations. We usually give our exclusive attention to our mind and thoughts and our body and sensations, because these are very attention grabbing. Being stuck in a loop of focusing on your mind and body helps to keep you in the cycle of anxiety.
The mind is a collection of thoughts that constantly appear and disappear. Our mind keeps up a near constant tirade of thoughts, most of which include the word “I” as though the mind is us. This is because your mind does not want to let go of what it is practiced believing, it wants to stay in its own bubble of consciousness.
Most mind activity is simply mind patterns, repetitive illusions we hold onto and identify with. The problem is, you identify with and see yourself in your feelings, thoughts and emotions and believe them.
The mind believes its own stories, and will totally control you if you’re not aware it’s your mind speaking.
The mind believes its own stories, that's why you sometimes follow your own thoughts instead of automatically realising it is just the activity of an out-of-control mind. Your mind creates scenarios, images and situations, sees patterns in numbers and events. It seems real when you’re in your own mind.
When you can step back and observe your thoughts. Your no longer your mind and you see that you mind was controlling you the whole time and you were lost in a kind of mind illusion. And what you were thinking is actually not true. We all fall for it because that’s often all we know. The important thing however, is to observe, be aware of and learn how to break the cycle. Which thankfully is very easy and effective and will produce real results in your life.
If you are aware of your thoughts, then it’s like you have stepped out of your own head for a moment and are looking back at yourself. The thought then loses its energetic hold over you, as now you’re not the thought itself, now you’re the observer of your thoughts. What happens is, you become acutely aware that your mind created the thought or idea, you did not choose it in awareness. Yes, it can take a bit to wrap your head around this stuff. However, many clients have told me that this has changed everything for them. As instead of being so negatively affected by their thoughts. They are able to instead disregard the thought and simply move on in their day.
If your not aware of your minds activity then you are your mind. And you will suffer, because your mind has an energetic hold over you.
The moment you realise that you have been thinking, you have an opportunity to consider is what your thinking true, and to ask yourself whether you chose that particular thought or idea or did your mind select it, and all you did was start listening to your own mind.
The voice in your head often belongs to your conditioned mind. If you are not aware you had a thought, then you are at the mercy of your own mind.
There is a duality in you, if you can't separate your mind from yourself, you will always listen to your mind.
Often the mind is in control of us and we don't see it or realise it's control. We are often a slave to our own minds without realising it, it's like you are dreaming, but don't realise you are asleep.
Each thought has the energy behind it to change your body chemistry, so that your feel like you are thinking.
Always ask: is that my mind speaking or did I choose this thought.
The more you are aware, the less control your mind has over you.